"To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I " (1 Corinthians 7:8, ESV)
In November of this year, I'll turn 20. This means, I'm beginning to see a lot of my friends get into serious relationships, engagements, and even marriages. Some even have kids already. You know what? That's perfectly fine! I have always had the dream of getting married and having my own kids one day as well. I would love to have that blessing one day! The thing is though, I'll be okay if I don't get to live that dream. I do however sometimes have the insecurity of "what if I end up alone?" as does everyone else I'm sure. We shouldn't though.
"Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you." (Deuteronomy 31:6)
So many times, we hear "You just haven't met the right one yet." or "God's just saving you for the perfect one." Here's the thing though; God never said that anyone needed to get married, date, or be in a courting relationship. Now, don't get me wrong. These relationships can be great when they are practiced correctly. When they're not though, we won't be satisfied. The only one who can truly satisfy the human heart, is of course it's creator. He knows it from beginning to end.
"And in Him you have been made complete, and He is the head over all rule and authority" (Colossians 2:10, NASB)
In other words, YOU ONLY NEED GOD. Seriously!
Now, I am definitely not saying that it's an awful idea for people to be in relationships, courtships, date, and marry. That is a matter of fact, the furthest from my point. The point here is that, our culture makes having an earthly companion a big deal! See we are not of this world though. We are called to be set apart. Do NOT think that you are weird because you're not dating, or you're not being currently pursued. That is such a deceiving lie!
Once you see your value in Christ, you will begin to see that with him you have all that you will EVER need. Ever!
Yeah, yeah. I know. You hear this ALL the time. Blah blah blah. Well listen up y'all. Until you fully understand and comprehend this, you will NEVER be satisfied with anything. Not a relationship, job, house, car, social status; the list could go on forever. When you have Christ as your first love though, and serve him and love him above all things, you will be able to love the things on Earth with a love of how Christ loves all of us.
"And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever." (1 John 2:17)
Human Attention. Affection. Love. We crave it. We want it. We feel less insecure with it. It doesn't last though, and it won't last long anyways, if we don't put God at the center of it. God is love, and love is..
Okay, yeah. This verse everyone knows, I'm sure of it. Have you ever really considered what it truly means though? This is the definition of God, if you really think about it. If we're to love like Christ loves, then this verse should be a life motto. Take it word from word. Live it out. Inhale it from God, and exhale it back to him and to this culture we live in.
If we can understand what this means, then we know that this is what it takes if we find ourselves the blessing of a earthly companion. If you want it to last, this verse is literally what you need to do.
If we do not find ourselves with a relationship though, learn to love those around you with this verse. It truly is a life motto.
Be content, no matter what happens in your life. No matter, what type of life you get to live. Single or Happily Married.
Learn though, that God is your first love. We love others, because God first loved us. (1 John 4:19). Love God, above all things. He will do what's best for your life. No matter what that is, praise him through it all. When we learn to love everything like he loves us, life is so much more enjoyable. Even love your circumstances, your boss, your job, your car that seems to always go in the shop. Everything.
