"Talking" is DUMB.

Normally my blogs are much different format that this, but this is some serious business that needs to be addressed like NOW.


1.) Whatever this "talking" crap is my generation came up with needs to die. If you want to date someone, date them. Like that's what Dating is for. Getting to know someone. Seeing if their soul is the same as yours..or is completely different, and you just need to run away as fast as you can.

2.) Don't EVER stop telling the person you're pursuing that you're interested in them. Ever. It should go past the first two weeks after meeting them. It should go on after y'all have been dating 1 month, 6 months, or even years. Even after you're engaged, AND married!

3.) If you don't abide by number 2, you'll probably find yourself dumped sooner or later. Why should that person give you their heart, if you can't give them a little reassurance every now and then? Exactly, they shouldn't.

4.) If you're "talking" (ugh) to multiple people you may romantically be interested in, STOP. You're obviously not interested if you're talking to more than just one. Save the heartbreak and either talk to one of them or none at all. Grow up, and realize you're putting more than just your heart on the line. You're putting another one of God's beautiful creations on the line as well. You're probably the reason Taylor Swift wrote that song. If one in particular comes to mind, sorry. T-Swift convicted you and she didn't even try.

"So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin." -James 4:17

5.) Women Crush Wednesday and Man Crush Monday-    EW. You've seen the posts. It'll be the same account posting the same crush every week. Or it's another account that posts a different crush every week. Either way, I don't think it should be happening. We should not have to post our love lives on social media for it to become or seem real. The relationship you have or don't have should be strictly between the two of you, and the Lord of course. It's a triangle, with three points. Not a line that keeps going forever and ever. Your #MCM or #WCW should be your MCE and WCE (everyday) and you shouldn't have to post about it for it to be genuine.

6.) If you sense that you're not the only one that the significant other is "talking" to or "going out with" you're probably right. It'll only get worse from here. Talk it out, or be prepared to never know the answer. Which by the way, you deserve the truth. You are worth the truth, so go out and get it.

"And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." -John 8:32


7.) If a person won't give you the time of day to FaceTime or talk on the phone instead of just text, or you're always the one to ask to hang out.. they probably could care less if the "friendship" or whatever type of relationship y'all may have just ceased to exist. You WILL make time for things that you care about. No matter how busy your life is, you CAN make time for it. Otherwise that thing trying to make time with you, might just decide it's not worth it anymore. You're not worth it anymore.


Is commitment just overrated now a days? The funny thing is the young men AND women who are causing this are the ones who want to settle down one day with the love of their life. They can't even settle for one now though. How are they ever going to do it in the future? They won't be able to. Not unless these things change, and they ask God to steer their life through everything. EVEN their love lives.

Trust Without Borders

16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate,[a] who will never leave you. 17 He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize him. But you know him, because he lives with you now and later will be in you. -John 14:16-17

When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own but will tell you what he has heard. He will tell you about the future. -John 16:13

For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God. -Romans 8:14

 So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves.17 The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions. 18 But when you are directed by the Spirit, you are not under obligation to the law of Moses. -Galatians 5:16-18

Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted there by the devil. -Matthew 4:1





      My family and I just got back from vacationing in Destin, Florida. Which means we were surrounded by beautiful beaches, water, wildlife, and of course the ocean. I had not seen an ocean since I was in the 5th grade. Being 19 years old now, that's kind of a long time. Maybe too long. Anyhow, it was an incredible experience to have with my family. From this trip, God has laid a lot on my heart and I knew that it wasn't meant to be kept to my self. I have had this mindset that I would always be a Texas Girl. I just never thought I'd see my self to want to live anywhere else. The thing is though, we are supposed to give all of our selves to God. ALL of it. Not just the bits and pieces we want. Like our sunday mornings, wednesday nights, a short prayer before bed. Not just during a crisis when we feel as if there's nothing left to do. Not just when our life is going perfect, but through it ALL. Soo I'm sure y'all are wondering why I have the picture and all of the scripture quoted above. Why? Because this song 'Oceans (Where Feet May Fail) by Hillsong United literally describes exactly why we should give our selves to God, and why he will be with us through everything if we just ask him to guide us. "Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders." Oceans (Where Feet May Fail) by Hillsong United quotes in their hit song. I researched the song, and found that there is over 50 scriptures referenced throughout. The line above that I quoted alone, has 5 scriptures that it refers to. Which are the 5 scriptures I listed above. Whoa. Didn't really think about that? Me neither. I knew that this song obviously had to have some scriptural references, but I didn't imagine it being this many.  

   "Wherever you would call me" is another part of the song. "WHEREVER". Not just "Oh Jesus, you can tell me I can go there. But I don't wanna go there." instead, "I will go where you tell me. ANYWHERE." So no, I can't tell myself that I will always be a Texas girl. I have to let God be the author of that. Which means instead of having the mindset of always being a Texan, my mindset should be for God to send me where he wants to send me, and I will go. Here are the 2 scriptures that part of the song refers to.

"The Lord had said to Abram, “Leave your native country, your relatives, and your father’s family, and go to the land that I will show you." -Genesis 12:1

"Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches." -1 Corinthians 7:17

    This song has more than just that type of meaning to me though. I was near the oceans last week, and saw the beauty of God through it all. Of course, I see God's beauty in Lubbock, Texas as well. Gosh y'all, our sunsets are absolutely breath taking! What I did learn was a cool analogy at the beach. Jesus holds me like a sea shell, and whispers to my heart his love for me. When that analogy crossed my mind, I was just kind of in awe for a a while. I had never thought about it that way. It's completely true though. As children, sea shells are so much fun to find, and listen to and talk through. They're all so unique and beautiful. That's what we are though in a sense. Sea shells. God always has us though, he doesn't just collect us to collect. He made us for us to love him, and him to love us. We are his children. We are his beautiful creations. We are his. 

Also, here is the link to the incredible blog I found that listed all of the scriptures used in the song! So thankful I was finally able to find answers to my questions with that blog. :)
http://fragrantlikeincense.wordpress.com/2013/10/23/songs-scripture-oceans-where-feet-may-fail-joel-houston-matt-crocker-salomon-ligthelm/



     

Single as a Pringle, & That's Okay

"To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I " (1 Corinthians 7:8, ESV)

In November of this year, I'll turn 20. This means, I'm beginning to see a lot of my friends get into serious relationships, engagements, and even marriages. Some even have kids already. You know what? That's perfectly fine! I have always had the dream of getting married and having my own kids one day as well. I would love to have that blessing one day! The thing is though, I'll be okay if I don't get to live that dream. I do however sometimes have the insecurity of "what if I end up alone?" as does everyone else I'm sure. We shouldn't though. 

"Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you." (Deuteronomy 31:6)

So many times, we hear "You just haven't met the right one yet." or "God's just saving you for the perfect one." Here's the thing though; God never said that anyone needed to get married, date, or be in a courting relationship. Now, don't get me wrong. These relationships can be great when they are practiced correctly. When they're not though, we won't be satisfied. The only one who can truly satisfy the human heart, is of course it's creator. He knows it from beginning to end. 

"And in Him you have been made complete, and He is the head over all rule and authority" (Colossians 2:10, NASB)

In other words, YOU ONLY NEED GOD. Seriously! 

Now, I am definitely not saying that it's an awful idea for people to be in relationships, courtships, date, and marry. That is a matter of fact, the furthest from my point. The point here is that, our culture makes having an earthly companion a big deal! See we are not of this world though. We are called to be set apart. Do NOT think that you are weird because you're not dating, or you're not being currently pursued. That is such a deceiving lie!

Once you see your value in Christ, you will begin to see that with him you have all that you will EVER need. Ever!

Yeah, yeah. I know. You hear this ALL the time. Blah blah blah. Well listen up y'all. Until you fully understand and comprehend this, you will NEVER be satisfied with anything. Not a relationship, job, house, car, social status; the list could go on forever. When you have Christ as your first love though, and serve him and love him above all things, you will be able to love the things on Earth with a love of how Christ loves all of us. 


"And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever." (1 John 2:17)

Human Attention. Affection. Love. We crave it. We want it. We feel less insecure with it. It doesn't last though, and it won't last long anyways, if we don't put God at the center of it. God is love, and love is..

    Okay, yeah. This verse everyone knows, I'm sure of it. Have you ever really considered what it truly means though? This is the definition of God, if you  really think about it. If we're to love like Christ loves, then this verse should be a life motto. Take it word from word. Live it out. Inhale it from God, and exhale it back to him and to this culture we live in. 

    If we can understand what this means, then we know that this is what it takes if we find ourselves the blessing of a earthly companion. If you want it to last, this verse is literally what you need to do. 

    If we do not find ourselves with a relationship though, learn to love those around you with this verse. It truly is a life motto.

     Be content, no matter what happens in your life. No matter, what type of life you get to live. Single or Happily Married. 

        

Learn though, that God is your first love. We love others, because God first loved us. (1 John 4:19). Love God, above all things. He will do what's best for your life. No matter what that is, praise him through it all. When we learn to love everything like he loves us, life is so much more enjoyable. Even love your circumstances, your boss, your job, your car that seems to always go in the shop. Everything. 

Relationships Kept Intact

A couple months ago in my Sunday school small group, I distinctly remember our leader saying something really, really neat. It definitely stuck with me, and I share it with whomever I feel needs to hear it. She said "Your relationship with God works the same way as a relationship with a human friend. If you only listen to them, but don't talk; you have an incomplete, dysfunctional relationship. If you only talk, but don't listen; it's still dysfunctional." That is so true, and can be completely applied to our relationship with God! Why? Prayer is talking, and reading the word of God is listening. Without both of them put together, neither really does any good in our lives or with our relationship with him. 

"And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all saints." -Ephesians 6:17-18

100 Day Challenge

     For the last few months, I have taken up the KLOVE morning show 100 day challenge. The 100 day challenge was designed to get you to do something better for that many days, or give something up that would better you. I chose to give up social media. In this day and age, social media websites seem to grab most of our attention for most of the day. I'm an owner of an iPhone and noticed before I took the challenge upon myself, the usage time of my iPhone battery was 7 hours. With 24 hours in a day, and a give or take 8 hours of sleep, that means only 9 hours of my time was used to indulge in conversations with my family members, friends, coworkers, fellow classmates, etc. It's also the only time out of my day that I could spend with God. That's less than 1/3 of the day! When I realized how much time I was on my phone on social media websites such as Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, Vine, and Pinterest, I was honestly in shock. I'm pretty sure we could all spend hours on social media. Which is the problem. It's selfish! 
       God gave us another day, and we spend it wishing we had that car, that boyfriend, that house, those clothes, or just simply judging the lives of others online. 11 "For I know the plans I have for you”—this is the Lord’s declaration—“plans for your welfare, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. 12 You will call to Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart." -Jeremiah 29:11-13 (HCSB) Now don't get me wrong, when used correctly social media is great! I am not by any means bashing it. There are pro's and con's to it as there is to anything else in this world we live in. What I am saying though, is social media should be used wisely. "Be careful then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of time, because the days are evil." Ephesians 5:15-16 (ESV) Uh how perfect is that verse? Time is what you make of it. You can use your time wisely, or if you don't there will be obvious consequences. So manage your time better, limit your time on social media! I am certain you will see a difference in not only your mood, and behavior but also of those whom you interact with on a daily basis. Eye contact?! Whoa. A 15 minute conversation without interruption? Daang girl (or guy)  look at you go.